I’ve been “lamenting” over my oldest son turning 17, feeling old and somewhat removed from his circle of followers and followed. But I have always tried to find perspective in all areas of my life, particularly with the passage of time, which I always seem to “lament.”
Perspective is not exactly an easy thing to explain, teach, or even show by example. It’s often an attitude that we must carry within in order to cope with the day-to-day stuff in healthy ways. So I consulted Wikipedia to see how they pinpoint a definition for this word. From Wikipedia: “The art of drawing solid objects on a two-dimensional surface so as to give the right impression of their height, width, depth, and position in relation to each other when viewed from a particular point.” Wow. Of course. We can make this very intangible word tangible by giving it a mathematical “angle.” So perspective is the way you structure something (your life, your thoughts, your actions, your attitudes) so that that thing maintains a manageable and logical “shape” to it in relation to the rest of the stuff in your life. Perspective is seeing all the things coming at you from a good angle. If you don’t like your angle, change it!
One of my all-time favorite authors for middle school readers is Cynthia Lord. If you haven’t already read Rules, plan to read it over the Christmas break. It’s worth it. In fact, it’s even better if you can LISTEN to it. Cynthia wrote in her blog yesterday about her attitude toward her son coming of age. Her blog humbles me and helps me gain perspective.
From Cynthia Lord: http://cynthialord.livejournal.com/882480.html